There are many things about Pres. Obama's mother.........that might have made her a target as well..........she was smart, capable............knew too much.......again, none of this is meant in disrespect....................and do not believe my conclusions.......i have taken many educated guesses................some things God may tell me.........sometimes i mess up..........it is not through any false humility i say that.........but a practical one........u may find stuff i have not.....

And i don't think i am perfect....................i can and do make mistakes............furthermore......my aim is not to get anyone in trouble................that is not doing something illegally............but rather for the greater good........or prove someone wrong to humiliate them.......no, i want the human race to be better tomorrow than it was today.............i can and will accept errors on my part.......if i can be shown i am or was wrong...........and i have been in the past...........

For instance........if i am driving in the wrong direction to a vacation place..........and i am 100 miles off course.............i would want to be told so i do not go 100 miles further in the wrong direction........................i already have to make up 200 miles..............why?  100 miles in the wrong direction means i have to back track that 100 miles..........a round trip of 200 miles.............another 100 miles..............would mean 400 miles of driving the wrong way..............................

Second marriage[edit]

It was at the East–West Center that Dunham met Lolo Soetoro,^[35] a Javanese^[5] surveyor who had come to Honolulu on September 1962 on an East–West Center grant to study geography at the University of Hawaii. Soetoro graduated from the University of Hawaii with an M.A. in geography in June 1964. In 1965, Soetoro and Dunham were married in Hawaii, and in 1966, Soetoro returned to Indonesia. Dunham graduated from the University of Hawaii with a B.A. in anthropology on August 6, 1967, and moved in October the same year with her six-year-old son to Jakarta, Indonesia, to rejoin her husband.^[36]

In Indonesia, Soetoro worked first as a low-paid topographical surveyor for the Indonesian government, and later in the government relations office of Union Oil Company.^[21][37] The family first lived at 16 Kyai Haji Ramli Tengah Street in a newly built neighborhood in the Menteng Dalam administrative village of the Tebet subdistrict in South Jakarta for two and a half years, with her son attending the nearby Indonesian-language Santo Fransiskus Asisi (St. Francis of Assisi) Catholic School for 1st, 2nd, and part of 3rd grade, then in 1970 moved two miles north to 22 Taman Amir Hamzah Street in the Matraman Dalam neighborhood in the Pegangsaan administrative village of the Menteng subdistrict in Central Jakarta, with her son attending the Indonesian-language government-run Besuki School one and half miles east in the exclusive Menteng administrative village of the Menteng subdistrict for part of 3rd grade and for 4th grade.^[38][39] On August 15, 1970, Soetoro and Dunham had a daughter, Maya Kassandra Soetoro.^[14]

In Indonesia, Dunham enriched her son's education with correspondence courses in English, recordings of Mahalia Jackson, and speeches by Martin Luther King Jr. In 1971, she sent the young Obama back to Hawaii to attend Punahou School starting in 5th grade rather than having him stay in Indonesia with her.^[36] Madelyn Dunham's job at the Bank of Hawaii, where she had worked her way up over a decade from clerk to becoming one of its first two female vice presidents in 1970, helped pay the steep tuition,^[40] with some assistance from a scholarship.^[41]

A year later, in August 1972, Dunham and her daughter moved back to Hawaii to rejoin her son and begin graduate study in anthropology at the University of Hawaii at Manoa. Dunham's graduate work was supported by an Asia Foundation grant from August 1972 to July 1973 and by an East–West Center Technology and Development Institute grant from August 1973 to December 1978.^[42]

Dunham completed her coursework at the University of Hawaii for an M.A. in anthropology in December 1974,^[5] and after having spent three years in Hawaii, Dunham, accompanied by her daughter Maya, returned to Indonesia in 1975 to do anthropological field work.^[42][43] Her son chose not to go with them back to Indonesia, preferring to finish high school at Punahou School in Honolulu while living with his grandparents.^[44]Lolo Soetoro and Dunham divorced on November 5, 1980; Lolo Soetoro married Erna Kustina in 1980 and had two children, a son, Yusuf Aji Soetoro (born 1981), and daughter, Rahayu Nurmaida Soetoro (born 1987). Lolo Soetoro died, age 52, on March 2, 1987, due to liver failure.^[45]

Dunham was not estranged from either ex-husband and encouraged her children to feel connected to their fathers.